A traumatized brain will often remember sounds, images, feelings without the chronology of events in correct order or, sometimes, even speakable. When I felt it was my turn to tell my story (at least what I knew so far) all I could say was “Something happened to me.”
Read MoreIn the worst moments of realizing the man you love isn’t the man you love at all, and you don’t know who this man actually is, sometimes a light turns on.
Read MoreAfter decades of earnest counsellors and coaches telling us how our marriages could be “better than ever” there’s a new kid in town. And she/he/they’re hanging out on the new product line banner of many websites and FB pages associated with the “sex addiction” treatment industry.
Read More“When will I stop feeling so awful?” “Will I ever be normal with friends again?” “How long does it take before you don’t care what people think?”
Read MoreFamilies, communities, and whole countries are wrestling with the consequences of losing their “normal”. They adapt, innovate, respect, assist others in need, resist, protest and defy it.
For wives and partners of men called sex addicts, however, it’s a whole second piece of that experience. We already had the rug pulled out from underneath our personal lives in our primary social unit of family life. The most important reality frame for our primary relationship was blown up by catching a glimpse of his secret life. And now, everything beyond that is destabilized and shifting, as well.
How’s that working for you?
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