I invested in life dreams with my (now)ex-husband. I lost almost all of them. The only thing I got was that my sons came out of their father’s “unveiling” knowing that I was the parent they could count on. I was the parent who would never put them in harm’s way or blame them for my own deceit as their father had. It was a tragic and sad “win” for me. But not a life dream.
Read MoreWhy are you staying with a life partner you can’t trust?
It’s not a work colleague from a job you need to have until you can get the next job. It’s not a neighbour you try to ignore and endure until either you, or they, move. It’s not a church person who you know to be a gossip and a troublemaker, but you can’t kick them out.
It’s your life partner.
Read MoreA few readers have brought it my attention that they don’t know how to avoid treatment practitioners who may not be safe for them.
Even though I’m writing about that regularly, it is still a learning curve.
Read MoreShe’s exactly who he needs to help make him socially palatable—a loving, supportive and good person with long friendships and family connections. He will have neither. She will not be wealthy because that would mean too many people keeping an eye out for her. He needs to work under the radar. If it’s later in life she will be skilled and genuinely talented at certain things that are worthwhile, but not highly educated. He doesn’t want a critical thinker who is mature enough to trust her trained mind. She will be a hard worker and add value immediately. He’s getting tired. She will probably have a hard story of loss and grief in her life that leaves her alone. He needs someone vulnerable to hopium. She will be warm and accepting and generous with affection and encouragement. He is starving for narcissistic supply. And something about her body will match his porn template. For example, his mommy.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
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