My dear friend, Elizabeth, who has walked our path sent me the following link, suggesting “there’s a blog in there somewhere”: https://harpers.org/archive/2021/10/put-on-the-diamonds-notes-on-humiliation-vivian-gornick/
Don’t forget to click on the rest of the blog!!!
Read MoreIf we tell the truth we discover about the man we married/partnered with—how he treated us with or without our knowledge and the abusive and destructive impact of it all upon our lives—we might be surprised to find ourselves accused of being vengeful or spiteful.
Read MoreIs marriage a game? Are there winners and losers? Are there also cheaters and sore losers? Is that why a sex addiction treatment practitioner calls it “cheating”—they treat primary relationships like a game?
Hmmmm. Maybe that’s also why they seem to focus on helping you become a better loser going forward!
Read MoreYesterday I tackled three cupboards untouched since moving in three years ago. I knew they would be hard. Some of my mother’s keepsake boxes were there. My stash of cards, notes and letters from people over my three decades of ordained ministry were there. And boxes of personal remembrances of mine were also there. And so it was that I went back in time for most of the day. I went back into the life spent mostly being covertly used and abused by the one person who vowed to love, honor and cherish me.
Read More…There’s a long history of disappearing our experience or putting it into a place of no responsibility or accountability by using the passive voice…
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