Before Discovery—your wonderful, ordinary, and precious life
After Discovery—a free fall into the unknown
In the middle—a most intimate cruelty
You are: Devastated. Confused. Angry. Numb. Sleepless. Emptied Out. Sobbing. Afraid. Hurt. Isolated. Desperate. Others (including therapists) don’t seem to “get it.” You wonder who this man really is and how many more lies there are.
These reactions don’t make you crazy or codependent. They are normal reactions to an event that is traumatizing you to the core. The treatment industry isn’t all that interested in you, though. It says you can have a marriage “better than before”. But “better than before” is a pretty low bar now you know what “before” included! Are you really aiming for minimal expectations in your life, or do you want more? And how will you get it?
“More” requires trauma care that makes you a priority. That begins with safety and compassion, and also includes accurate information, understanding, and experienced practical support. Recovering from a most intimate cruelty will require wisdom, patience and love from your healing companion. And a free fall into the unknown will require courage and hope.
My name is Diane Strickland, and that's exactly what I am offering:
Support for Understanding and Managing Your Trauma Symptoms
Practical Knowledge about Predictable Behaviors and How to Cope and Protect Yourself
Identifying the Best Options for You—Staying, Going, and Living “In-between”
Critical Coaching and Support through Separation Negotiations, Mediation, Court Appearances, and other Court-ordered Processes
Where to Begin?
When you take that first step to look after yourself you change the dynamics of this situation in a good way. You affirm the value of your life and build trust in yourself. I understand a first instinct is offer to look after him, but that is usually the worst thing you can do. Put your own oxygen mask on first! I created everything here for wives and partners of men called sex addicts, drawing my lived experience and my work with hundreds of women like us. Whether you want to start with the free videos, booking a trial session, ordering resources, reading my free weekly blog, or learning more about me and my approach--I created the things I wished I had when I was in your position.
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